As you may have detected, Wednesdays have become a little bit more of a long-skate day at the rink for posts on Saturday Mornings.
Today, my mind is going in a number of directions simultaneously; so, enjoy the bell-bottom jeans, disco lights, or the snacks — or whatever strikes your fancy (and, hopefully, not your fanny...!). Here goes:
Most people seem to know only by means of distinction (at the very least, through contrast). I know about this because of what I know about that. This is different because of...fill in the blank. These things are like this, while those things are like that.
But while appropriate for initial growth and understanding, that approach is actually a very limiting framework for knowing. More than one thing can be true (even if they seem, at times, to be opposites).
It is more difficult to engage in mutuality (if not multiplicity). For one thing, it's not nearly as tidy.
Where one disposition is primarily either-or, the other is at the very least both-and.
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We are more fearful of things that we haven’t been exposed to — at least that's what it looks like sometimes. If we've not really gotten to know something (or someone) that is different from what we normally experience, we can tend to avoid it. Obviously, these days have hijacked this reality to the extreme — we may even hate things we've never really even tried or, even worse, someone we've never even really talked to.
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The narcissist says, when you support (if not adore) me and what I do, I will lavish you with many of the things you want and make you feel like you belong to something good.
But, if you cross me, I will destroy you…oh, and by the way, there is no room for middle ground in this arrangement either…including how you relate to other people and their cooperation, in this way, with me.
It’s all or nothing baby…and, I’m not kidding.
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OK, last one...here.
