Like most things healing related, self-care takes time; you can’t just take a pill. We all need more patience (at least I do).
So much can be noticed / revealed when we are forced to slow down or stop:
- We are so anxious to get back to things, many of which aren’t really serving us all that well
- Why does it so often seem to take pain to stop us?
- What does real care look like? Is it just comfort? Does it include both waiting and effort (which can, at times, seem in conflict with each other)?
- What does self-care include (for the person suffering? For the people involved in care-giving?)
- What kinds of things do we have to believe, that seem easy for us to live past when things are ‘going well’ in our lives?
The list just seems to keep growing, the longer we sit with it….
And, perhaps, therein lies the secret...we must sit awhile, to truly care for ourselves enough to be even able to do so for someone else.
I've been doing a lot of sitting this week — literally and figuratively. As I've done so, I've heard so many things I otherwise would never hear and I've become somewhat aware of what is adjusting within me.
