Another lingering reflection, from a recent Randoms...:
When people don’t pay attention to us, why is it so easy to believe that they don’t care?
Has this ever happened to you?
Perhaps you had to sneak into it by catching yourself claiming something like no one cares about me. Why is it easier to portray something as extreme, than it is to simply acknowledge that you want something — something as simple as a little attention (maybe you want way more than...a little — which may be another issue)?
More often than not, isn't it just true that most people are simply more focused on their own concerns?
In spite of not wanting to admit it, truth be told, I am...more focused on my life (than on yours). I'm even sorry about that (sometimes).
Sure, people should pay more attention to others (than to themselves, given our propensity to self-obsess ). But, they just don't. We just don't.
In some cases at least, if that secret were to actually still get out somehow, people would actually see their transgression and ask you a question, about your life (or, anything, for that matter). They would actually feel bad, that such an accusation could possibly be true. They would want to make it right (even if they didn't need to, or shouldn't...).
That's probably not the biggest issue here. The bigger one probably is closer to what I do with it — with why I reach the conclusions I do...about others. Especially one like that — that they don't care.
It really isn't as personal as we are tempted to believe it is. But, we can make it seem like more than it is. We might even twist it up a bit further with a version of no one cares about me...in order to increase the chances of getting something what we want — in this case, just some attention once in a while.
For some reason, it's often not easy to simply be vulnerable and express our need or desire. But, look at what happens (the conclusions we can reach) when we don't. Perhaps, more beautifully, consider what happens when we do.
