I've noticed...that how I want to be is largely determined by what is important to those around me. In other words, if it is important to them, I want it to be important to me.
I can tend to absorb or merge with others, sometimes too much.
I'm not super comfortable with this (in fact, I even wince at it, as I write this), as it can lead to a certain kind of lostness in terms of who I am (independent from those around me) or how I actually feel.
Understanding that this is, among other things to be sure, a function of personality theory (like Enneagram) is helpful for me to be more aware of how this kind of thing works in my life. It helps me recognize my tendencies and creates opportunity for me to address how I want to be.
