I've noticed...so much of love is learning how to surrender—how to let go.
If the old saying is still true, you really are limited in your ability to love other people by your ability to love your self.
Then, it is only through letting go of the things I am holding on on to that allows me to truly love myself and therefore others.
Jesus taught us, grasping at what one has (trying to be God—being in control, etc) is something to let go of.
An unwillingness to surrender is the opposite of love and only leads to violence, rather than peace.
