Another lingering reflection, on a recent I'm Wondering...:
I'm wondering...about our frame of reference.
Frame of reference, basically, is what we think we know and why we know it. Initially, we don't think about it very much. We just experience it.
Much of our frame of reference is established (and constrained) by our particular experience — what we have experienced and what we haven’t experienced. We have to admit that our experience is limited...to what we have experienced.
At one point or another, something prompts a deeper question. How do we know (not just what we do know and why)?
For example, how much of what we think we know is true is simply because of the frame of reference we are currently in? What if we were in a different frame of reference? What would we think would be true then?
We all have a point of reference. It's natural; even needed for our development. It helps us at key points in our lives.
And, it can limit us — we may simply not see important things because of it.
To test the theory, notice what happens when things change. You basically have two options. Get things to change back or change how you view them. To do the latter, you have to change your point of view — how you think about what is happening, about what is different?
This often happens to us more than once over the course of our lives (even it we don't recognize it). Sometimes it happens simply because of a change of circumstances (insignificant or substantial). Sometimes education and growth is involved. Sometimes our carefully constructed worlds no longer seem to fit with the larger experience we are seeing or experiencing.
Traveling overseas during college was one my first significant encounters with my frame of reference — what it was and how other people's frame of reference was different. Having kids was another one — what I thought going into it really needed to be expanded. Right now I'm in a job arrangement that is pretty unfamiliar (at least for me) — I've been using my frame of reference to evaluate it...and it needs to change, to allow for other possibilities. In each case, I have had the opportunity to change what I use to evaluate things. Each situation is obviously different; it would follow then that my criteria should, too.
So, sometimes, you have to be willing to allow your point of reference to change.
Whether it is forced upon on us or a choice we make, most of the time, over the course of one's life, there is an opportunity (one way or another) for it to evolve.




