Randoms…

Everything you do is another story to tell…about your story. 

The slower you go, the more you see. 

As people get older, they seem to either get more spiritual or more religious.

Why is it that if something is meaningful to us, we want to share it?

 

Prior Randoms...

Visual: Shadow Mirror

Visual - "Shadow Mirror":

Bowman Lake, MT

Impeccably quiet…in every way.

There’s nothing quite like silence, to allow you to really hear.

Including things like…all the noise going on in your head.  

Once you can hear it, you can go about the work of returning to silence…and all the beauty that surrounds you.

Earth Your Dancing Place

'Poem for the week' -- "Earth Your Dancing Place":

Beneath heaven's vault
remember always walking
through halls of cloud
down aisles of sunlight
or through high hedges
of the green rain
walk in the world
highheeled with swirl of cape
hand at the swordhilt
of your pride
Keep a tall throat
Remain aghast at life

Enter each day
as upon a stage
lighted and waiting
for your step
Crave upward as flame
have keenness in the nostril
Give your eyes
to agony or rapture

Train your hands
as birds to be
brooding or nimble
Move your body
as the horses
sweeping on slender hooves
over crag and prairie
with fleeing manes
and aloofness of their limbs

Take earth for your own large room
and the floor of the earth
carpeted with sunlight
and hung round with silver wind
for your dancing place

-- May Swenson

Curious, Not Judgmental

Be curious, not judgmental.

-- Walt Whitman (maybe…)

What, How, Why

We often run first into what.  What needs to be done?  

Once that is understood, the most natural next question is, how?  How do we do what needs to be done?

But, if we never get past what how and what are a function of, we may never get to why.  Why are we doing this, in the first place?

Without the centering that can come from  'why', we can spend a lot of time learning how to do something, without even knowing why...which often ends up somewhere we don't want to be.

Letting Go

Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness.

-- Thich Nhat Hanh

Come Alive

I'm wondering…what makes me come alive?

Perhaps one of the best gifts we can give ourselves (and the world) is to ask ourselves this question — what makes me come alive?

Working on answers to this question can lead us to personal freedom in many ways.  

So often, we side-step this question with what amounts to be another one, 'what does the world say it looks like to feel alive?'  But, this one leads us in another direction; an often unhelpful one at that.  

The real question is directly personal; what makes me come alive?  It may take a while to answer; that is OK.  

But, not asking it may leave us more in the dark than is necessary.

Mark of Maturity

Instagram: mariashriver

The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you, and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.

-- Maria Shriver

On Earth, As In Heaven

Eternal Spirit,

Earth-maker, Pain-bearer, Life-giver,

Source of all that is and that shall be,

Father and Mother of us all,

Loving God, in whom is heaven:

The hallowing of your name echo through the universe!

The way of your justice be followed by the peoples

        of the world!

Your heavenly will be done by all created beings!

Your commonwealth of peace and freedom

        sustain our hope and come on earth.

With the bread we need for today, feed us.

In the hurts we absorb from one another, forgive us.

In times of temptation and test, strengthen us.

From trials too great to endure, spare us.

From the grip of all that is evil, free us.

For you reign in the glory of the power that is love,

       now and for ever. Amen.

-- prayer of Jesus, from the Anglican Church of New Zealand, which both honors and reflects indigenous Maori culture

It is incredible dishonesty in the human heart to pray daily that this kingdom should come, that God’s will be done on earth as in heaven, and at the same time to deny that Jesus wants this kingdom to be put into practice on earth. Whoever asks for the rulership of God to come down on earth must believe in it and be wholeheartedly resolved to carry it out. Those who emphasize that the Sermon on the Mount is impractical and weaken its moral obligations should remember the concluding words, “Not all who say ‘Lord’ to me shall reach the kingdom of heaven, but only those who do the will of my Father in heaven” [Matthew 7:21].

-- Diana Butler Bass

Randoms...

I am never less curious than when I am afraid.

There is not only some comfort, but also great value, in finding ways to make notes about what you are feeling.

In the end, everyone wants a form of their own creative expression.

Why is pleasure so often temporary?

Prior Randoms...

Different Cultures Define Happiness Differently

Writing in the International Journal of Wellbeing in 2012, two Japanese scholars surfaced an important cultural difference in the definition of happiness between Western and Asian cultures. In the West, they found happiness to be defined as “a high arousal state such as excitement and a sense of personal achievement.” Meanwhile, in Asia, “happiness is defined in terms of experiencing a low arousal state such as calmness.”

-- Arthur C. Brooks, Different Cultures Define Happiness Differently

Visual: Pink

 Visual - "Pink":

Between...There Is A Space

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

-- Viktor Frankl

Healing Is A Process

Healing can be a frustratingly slow process for me, especially when I'm in a hurry.

What If...that is the point of healing? — like, by design, it needs you to slow down…or stop.

Ultimately, we are not in control of all the mysteries involved in healing (physical, emotional, spiritual, etc.).  But, what we can do is learn to cooperate with the process of it, not to mention the pace of it.

Lose Their Way

People lose their way when they lose their why.

-- Michael Hyatt

Doesn't Mean It's Bad

I've noticed...that just because something doesn’t feel good, it doesn’t mean it’s bad.

A couple of nights ago, I felt very flat emotionally, perhaps even depleted — in other words, I didn't feel good. This was likely a result of an intensive two-day self-discovery process I had just completed. I expected (or, perhaps, was just hoping) to come out on a high. So, it was easy for me to feel that this flatness was something bad (disappointing, confused, a problem, etc.). 

As I elected to just observe (and not fix) what I was feeling, a metaphor came to mind.  What If...it would be more accurate to describe the experience of the two things (intensity / flatness) like the ebb and flow of a tide? 

Certainly, a tide of emotions had rolled in for two full days and there was really no more space left to be filled. So, as all of that continued to move, at this point perhaps more of a kind of retreat, it looked like just a bunch of open space...like nothing was left (of the emotion or of what had caused it).  By comparison, it might even feel like something bad had happened, in the sense that it appeared that now there was nothing there.  But, really there was a lot there, for one thing...space.  A space had been created in fact, by the discovery of many wonderful things. They weren't gone; they had just receded into another place or another shape for an appropriate period time.

Emotions are indicators — important ones even — designed to detect certain kinds of things.  How or what we feel is an indication of something, of something that has or is happening.  But, these indications, aren't the only things that are happening.  The things these indications are pointing to are also there (in both times of flowing or ebbing).

So, just because something doesn’t feel good, it doesn’t mean it’s bad.  In fact, it could just be the most natural indication that what is alive in me IS still active and moving in my life. 

75 Years of Marriage

Spiritual Wisdom

The two wheels of Scripture and Tradition can be seen as sources of outer authority, while our personal experience leads to our inner authority. I am convinced we need and can have both. Only when inner and outer authority come together do we have true spiritual wisdom.

What we usually consider “official teaching” changes every century or so. Most of our operative images of God come primarily from our early experiences of authority in family and culture, but we use teachings from the Tradition and Scriptures to validate them!

An evolutionary faith understands that nothing is static. The universe unfolds, our understanding of God evolves and deepens, and our moral development surely evolves as well.

-- Richard Rohr

Randoms...

An unfortunate truth; if you lie enough times, some people will actually believe you.

Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to have a lot to do a lot.

Vulnerability has power (and, don’t you just hate it when it is used to manipulate people?).

In the end, what is character??

Prior Randoms...

There Is No Debate Over Critical Race Theory

The United States is not in the midst of a “culture war” over race and racism. The animating force of our current conflict is not our differing values, beliefs, moral codes, or practices. The American people aren’t divided. The American people are being divided.

Republican operatives have buried the actual definition of critical race theory: “a way of looking at law’s role platforming, facilitating, producing, and even insulating racial inequality in our country,” as the law professor Kimberlé Crenshaw, who helped coin the term, recently defined it. Instead, the attacks on critical race theory are based on made-up definitions and descriptors. “Critical race theory says every white person is a racist,” Senator Ted Cruz has said. “It basically teaches that certain children are inherently bad people because of the color of their skin,” said the Alabama state legislator Chris Pringle.

There are differing points of view about race and racism. But what we are seeing and hearing on news shows, in school-district meetings, in op-ed pages, in legislative halls, and in social-media feeds aren’t multiple sides with differing points of view. There’s only one side in our so-called culture war right now.

The Republican operatives, who dismiss the expositions of critical race theorists and anti-racists in order to define critical race theory and anti-racism, and then attack those definitions, are effectively debating themselves. They have conjured an imagined monster to scare the American people and project themselves as the nation’s defenders from that fictional monster.

The evangelist Pat Robertson recently called critical race theory “a monstrous evil.” And over the past year, that “monstrous evil” has supposedly been growing many legs.  Continue here....

-- Ibram X. Kendi

This was again obvious (to me, although apparently not to most of the crowd) at IN AG Todd Rokita’s 'Parents Bill of Rights' town-hall meeting recently held in our town — which in essence amounted to something on the order of,  “Let me patently pander to your worst fears, under the auspices of having a discussion.”

Vaccination Rates

AXIOS

AXIOS

Why make note of this?

Because this is more than just information; it is telling us something.  Who is (isn't) listening?

Lifetime's Work

Discovering the truth about ourselves is a lifetime’s work, but it’s worth the effort.

-- Fred Rogers

Want To Do

There is a quiet, yet persistent, urging within me to do more of what I really enjoy doing — what I notice I most naturally do, what I want to do.  

But, invariably, I run up against the question of 'why?'.  And, too often, the only answer I can come up with are reasons not to.

It is conspicuous that it is too easy to not come up with the reasons why I should; what does that indicate?  What is my 'why' question really about?

Is it related to the dynamic of criticism / rejection one often feels when they put themselves out there?

The reality is that I am not doing things that I am probably really more made for (or, at the very least, want to do; that I enjoy doing). Instead, I am doing something that I am able to do (most likely — as gross as it sounds — because it is the easiest way I can envision to make money).

I suspect that the answers I am looking for in this will only be discovered, as I do more of what I really want to do.

Tomorrow, I will be taking another step towards discovering more about what shape responding to this urging could look like for me....

LT: Selfless vs Selfish

The selfish fear change. The selfless lead it.

-- Simon Sinek

Rigged

Ever noticed...when and how claims like 'it's rigged' are made?

Attention of the Heart

Attention of the heart is the primary aim of spiritual work.

-- Simeon

We have nothing to give to others that we ourselves have not first received.

-- Harold L. Senkbeil

Randoms...

What actually most informs us, our mind or our body?

Despite that the conspiracies of men are relatively small and short-lived (many only imagined) — they still seem to have significant influence in many lives.

Be aware of things that deaden your senses.

Politics is pretty much all about money — when will Americans (especially Christians) realize how much they’re being played by those who use it simply to stoke fears about power? 

Prior Randoms...

At Its Best, American Patriotism Is Blessed with Two-Dimensional Vision

In the pre-dawn hours of May 15, 1918, Private Henry Johnson was pulling sentry duty with Private Needham Roberts in a French trench that faced the German line just west of the Argonne Forest. Johnson and Roberts were members of the 369th Infantry Regiment from New York. The 369th, known as the “Harlem Hellfighters,” was an African American regiment, one of the first led by Black officers and NCOs in the US Army. The regiment had joined the French line as replacements, and its soldiers were given French equipment to face German front-line veterans of four years of trench warfare.

At 2 a.m., Johnson and Roberts heard German trench raiders clipping wire, preparing to surprise the Allied troops, spread mayhem, and seize prisoners in hopes of gathering intelligence. Johnson started throwing grenades into the darkness, toward the sound of the Germans, while Roberts ran back to the main line to alert the French. In the melee that followed, Johnson expended all of his grenades and grappled with the Germans in hand-to-hand combat, armed with a 14-inch bolo knife. He killed four Germans, plunging his knife into the head of one of them, and wounded 20 more, all while sustaining over 20 gunshot wounds. He also saved the severely wounded Roberts from being taken prisoner.

From then on, the 369th never lost a man to capture. It endured more uninterrupted combat time than any American regiment in the war, and its fighters were the first to reach the Rhine. Johnson and Roberts were also the first American privates to receive the Croix de Guerre from the French government in World War I.

But when Johnson returned home...continue here.

One of the salient features of American patriotism is its willingness to reflect on America’s failures as well as its glories. As Smith writes, “Patriotism can be self-critical. Consider the belated recognition of war heroes who had been overlooked due to their race, but were then awarded the Congressional Medal of Honor decades after their actions. What does this demonstrate, other than an enlarged conception of who belongs in the American family?” American patriotism, according to Smith, should be sharply distinguished from the extremes of national self-hatred, cosmopolitanism that naively universalizes humanity, and a nationalism that breeds dangerous divisiveness and suspicion. Patriotism, unlike these intemperate attitudes, is found in a blend of reason and love. As Smith defines it, patriotism “is an expression of our highest ideals and commitments, not only to what we are, but also to what we might be.”

American patriotism is morally aspirational, self-reflective, and self-correcting. Patriots recognize their flaws and sins, and they resolve to learn from those sins. They do not overcorrect, nor do they abandon hope in the ideals established in the founding documents, those ideals that define the essential nature of the republic. 

-- John D. Wilsey

Everything Needs Fixing

'Poem selection' for the week -- "Everything Needs Fixing":

in your thirties everything needs fixing. i bought a toolbox

for this. filled it with equipment my father once owned

to keep our home from crumbling. i purchased tools with

names & functions unknown to me. how they sat there

on their shelf in plastic packaging with price tags screaming:

hey lady, you need this!  like one day i could give my home

& everything living inside it the gift of immortality, to be

a historical monument the neighbor’s would line up

to visit even after i’m gone & shout: damn that’s a nice house!

i own a drill now, with hundreds & hundreds of metal pieces

i probably won’t use or use in the wrong ways but what

i’m certain of, is still, the uncertainty of which tools repair

the aging dog, the wilting snake plant, the crow’s feet

under my eyes, the stiff knee or bad back.

& maybe this is how it is—how parts of our small universe

dissolve like sugar cubes in water—a calling to ask us

to slow our busy breathing so we can marvel

at its magic. because even the best box of nails are capable

of rust. because when i was a child i dropped

a cookie jar in the shape of noah’s ark,

a family heirloom that shattered to pieces.

the animals broke free, zebras ran under

the kitchen table, the fractured lion roared by

the front door & out of the tool cabinet

i snagged duck tape & ceramic glue. pieced each beast

back to their intended journey.  because that afternoon

when my father returned from work i confessed

& he sat the jar on the counter only to fill it with

pastries. how the cracks of imperfection mended by

my hands laid jagged. chipped paint sliced across a rhino’s neck.

every wild animal lined up against the boat—

& a flood of sweet confections waiting inside.

-- Karla Cordero

From the author:

“At the beginning of the pandemic, the concept of aging and death became a haunting obsession. With an attempt to regain control during a world crisis, I began fixing every crack and bruise around the house with a hope to expand the longevity of these items. This poem gave me the opportunity to reflect on the kinds of living material within my life and how there is a limitation to my fixing, realizing how we must marvel at the magic and evolving beauty of aging. This poem led me to think about the kinds of repairs I made in my life as a child, and about a father still finding purpose in the fractured and imperfect. I began to think about the biblical story of Noah, sent by God to repair a fractured world and how there is still beauty to be found in the outcome of chaos.”

Optical Illusion

More Like You

Your relationships improve drastically and the tension in your mind decreases significantly when you can simply accept people for who they are instead of fixating on how they should change and be more like you.

-- yung pueblo

Risk of Acceptance

One of the more significant tensions we feel (or, at least I do) is...if we manifest our true-self more obviously, what risk does that introduce to our prospects for acceptance, especially from those people that are close to us, whose acceptance we feel we need?

For me, I suspect this works itself out in a way that keeps me a little...under wraps.  How much can I really expose about what I think or feel or want?

But, there is a surprise in this dilemma — often what keep me slightly under wraps actually contributes to the dynamic of what feels like acceptance or not acceptance.  Authentic vulnerability expressing who we are, is what actually draws others to us.

...unless it doesn’t and drives people away (which does happen), but not nearly as often as we might think.

Growth or Safety

You will either step forward into growth or you will step backward into safety.

-- Abraham Maslow

The American Renaissance Has Begun

In 1982, the economist Mancur Olson set out to explain a paradox. West Germany and Japan endured widespread devastation during World War II, yet in the years after the war both countries experienced miraculous economic growth. Britain, on the other hand, emerged victorious from the war, with its institutions more intact, and yet it immediately entered a period of slow economic growth that left it lagging other European democracies. What happened?

In his book “The Rise and Decline of Nations,” Olson concluded that Germany and Japan enjoyed explosive growth precisely because their old arrangements had been disrupted. The devastation itself, and the forces of American occupation and reconstruction, dislodged the interest groups that had held back innovation. The old patterns that stifled experimentation were swept away. The disruption opened space for something new.

Something similar may be happening today. Covid-19 has disrupted daily American life in a way few emergencies have before. But it has also shaken things up and cleared the way for an economic boom and social revival.

Millions of Americans endured grievous loss and anxiety during this pandemic, but many also used this time as a preparation period, so they could burst out of the gate when things opened up.  Continue here....

-- David Brooks

If you want to be part of the solution and not the problem, get vaccinated ... It’s mind-boggling to me how we can see people all around us dying and getting hospitalized and the common enemy is the virus, and we’re still fighting with each other.

-- Dr. Anthony Fauci

Independence Day Calls Us to the Holy Work of Repair

When I was a kid, we spent two weeks each year with my grandparents in their old summer cottage on Long Island Sound. Every night around sunset, my grandfather lowered the American flag, folded it gently, and put it away. He raised it again the next morning.

Even with his attentive care, the flag became tattered by the salt spray and the wind. After subsequent generations failed to handle it with such faithfulness, the flag became threadbare. We eventually stopped flying it. All that remained was an aluminum pole that rattled in the breeze. It finally snapped in a storm.

As we approach this Fourth of July, I am thinking about those tattered and threadbare flags that led to an empty flagpole. I am thinking of the reasons my grandfather, a veteran of World War II and the Korean War, flew the flag with both humility and honor. I am thinking about what the flag represents, the ideals of liberty and justice for all, the idea of our common equality bestowed upon us not by our society but by our Creator. Those ideals have at times in our history become threadbare, putting us in the position of raising flags that no longer carry any meaning at all.

Around Memorial Day this year, another holiday with flags raised high, many Americans learned about the 100-year-old Tulsa Race Massacre...continue here.

-- Amy Julie Becker

Randoms...

The sooner I start eating addictive things, the more I want to eat....  :)

Those who disregard the past, are condemned to repeat it.

Because of our sense of personality, the endgame isn’t actually what we think it is — we spend so much time and effort toward the wrong thing.

How much of the time is pleasure or pain the catalyst of our habits?

Prior Randoms...

The US’s greatest danger isn’t China. It’s much closer to home

Recently:

It is just too easy to maintain our need for an enemy:

The rivalry with China is palpable but history teaches us lessons about how it’s easier to blame others than blame ourselves.

China’s increasingly aggressive geopolitical and economic stance in the world is unleashing a fierce bipartisan backlash in America. That’s fine if it leads to more public investment in basic research, education, and infrastructure – as did the Sputnik shock of the late 1950s. But it poses dangers as well.

More than 60 years ago, the sudden and palpable fear that the Soviet Union was lurching ahead of us shook America out of a postwar complacency and caused the nation to do what it should have been doing for many years. Even though we did it under the pretext of national defense – we called it the National Defense Education Act and the National Defense Highway Act and relied on the Defense Advanced Research Projects Administration for basic research leading to semiconductors, satellite technology, and the Internet – the result was to boost US productivity and American wages for a generation.

When the Soviet Union began to implode, America found its next foil in Japan. 

And on it went: The Japanese Power Game,The Coming War with Japan, Zaibatsu America: How Japanese Firms are Colonizing Vital US Industries, The Silent War, Trade Wars.

But there was no vicious plot. We failed to notice that Japan had invested heavily in its own education and infrastructure – which enabled it to make high-quality products that American consumers wanted to buy. We didn’t see that our own financial system resembled a casino and demanded immediate profits. We overlooked that our educational system left almost 80% of our young people unable to comprehend a news magazine and many others unprepared for work. And our infrastructure of unsafe bridges and potholed roads were draining our productivity.  Continue here....

-- Robert Reich

So, be aware of those who pedal such things; they are not doing it for our sake — they are doing for their own personal gain.

TOV

'Tov' is the original Hebrew word in this passage, which we translate as “good” in English.

Tov (pronounced Tō-v) is a rich and expansive word. It has a deeper meaning than our English “good”.  Tov is a celebration of life in all its diversity – birth, death, re-birth, seasons, warmth, cold, the messiness and sexiness of it all. From the very beginning, Being declares that Spirit inhabiting matter is good. Good is the fulfilled and intended state of things.  Continue here....

-- Brad Toews

Peace In Us

The more peace there is in us, the more peace there will also be in our troubled world.

-- Etty Hillesum

...if you really take this in, this is more than just a 'peaceful' observation.  

In fact, it is like going to war against our tendencies to view the world thru the lenses of victimization and passive aggression (the peaceful approach, right?) — not to mention outright attack of anyone who makes us feel uncomfortable...about nearly anything.

What goes on outside is a reflection of what goes on inside.

Attention To

What you pay attention to is what you become.

It Is Not The Answer

It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.

-- Eugene Ionesco

Worst Enemy

The worst enemy to creativity is self doubt.

-- Sylvia Plath

Note to self....

Can't vs Won't

I'm wondering...what is the essential difference between can't and won't?

The most obvious aspect, on the surface, might be volition.  

But, pick either one and then move towards the other.  In the end, how much volition is really involved?

Why does it feel easier for some to claim that someone won’t do something than it is to say they just can’t?  For others, it seems easier to conclude someone just can’t, rather than that they just won’t.

We can't ponder this for too long without running into the question of capacity.  What are we capable of?  How much can we do?  

We often love stories about people who pushed the boundaries of their capacity.  Perhaps, we vicariously imagine that we could do the same, whenever we would want, too.

The truth is, though, that there are some things I literally cannot do...even while others actually can do them.  Is that because of my genetic limitations (physical or otherwise)?  In some cases, yes.  In other cases, no.

I remember the first time I took a hike up Pike's Peak -— it was awful and I couldn't enjoy it at all.  I was out of shape and unfamiliar with my surroundings.  I decided at the point, that I wanted to enjoy things like this and that that meant I would have to do some things differently in my life to make it happen.  In other words, I had some choices to make.

Tami and I now enjoy hiking in all kinds of places — at least in part, because of some of the choices we make that physically enable us to do so.

If I think you can, but you think you can't, where are we (even if I think it is because you won't)?

What about when it comes towards me, instead of from me?

If you think I can, but I think I can't, what then (even if you think it is because I won't)?

So, how far does choice push us either direction on the can't / won't continuum?  Does it really matter?  

What degree of agency is there on such matters — 10%, 100%?  

And, what about other kinds of agency (below the surface) that at times is hard not to notice; the kind that is beyond the confines of my own choices?

Scripture or Love

Instagram: nakedpastor

Randoms...

If you can capture the attention of a dog before it gets distracted, you can more easily influence its subsequent behavior (makes me wonder for what other species that might also be the case).

Often, there is quite a bit of sub-text below what we generally let on to...some of which, we even are aware of.

Heavy-handedness does produce results...for a while.

When do you tend to wonder about the meaning of things? 

Prior Randoms...

The Unmasking of Evangelicalism

Evangelicalism has lost credibility. It can only blame itself. We are watching its unmasking.

Evangelicalism is a disorganized, ecumenical alliance of Christians with traditional beliefs, the necessity of a personal experience with God in Christ (new birth), and as a movement it (previously) had a strong commitment to evangelism.

But, evangelicalism has become a noisy cymbal with a pestering “look at me” call for attention. What it wants others to see is not what they see, and what it doesn’t see the rest observe. It’s ugly.

Theology is never meant to be a set of beliefs disconnected from a serious life, but evangelicalism’s claims to possess final truth about the Lord Jesus Christ is systemically denied by the immoralities and inconsistencies of its confessors. It is deconstructing.

There was a time when evangelicalism was carried along by a deserved, general social and even some political respect: Americans were “Christian” and respected the various Christian denominations. Priests got hat tips, pastors were asked to pray at high school gatherings, and churches had social honor. Evangelicals were part of that social world.

Not today.  Continue here....

-- Scot McKnight

I, Lover

'Poem for the week' -- "I, Lover":

I shall never have any fear of love, 

Not of its depth nor its uttermost height,

Its exquisite pain and its terrible delight.

I shall never have any fear of love.

I shall never hesitate to go down

Into the vastness of its abyss

Nor shrink from the cruelty of its awful kiss.

I shall never have any fear of love.

Never shall I dread love’s strength

Nor any pain it might give.

Through all the years I may live

I shall never have any fear of love.

I shall never draw back from love

Through fear of its vast pain

But build joy of it and count it again.

I shall never have any fear of love.

I shall never tremble nor flinch

From love’s moulding touch:

I have loved too terribly and too much

Ever to have any fear of love.

-- Elsa Gidlow

The Same

I have to change to stay the same.

-- Willem de Kooning

Rarely Independent

We don't get extra credit by trying to maintain the position that our thoughts are not highly self-referential.

In other words, not many (any?) of our "I'm an independent thinker..." thoughts (often viewed as more virtuous) are really independent.  Context is always involved; and, often, way more then we realize.

The implications are nearly never-ending....

Denialism is not skepticism

Resolutely refusing to accept a conventional understanding is a statement of certainty.

That’s different from honest skepticism. The skeptic offers an open mind and is clear about what would be necessary to earn enthusiastic support.

The denialist, on the other hand, is sure. Now and forever. This certainty probably doesn’t come from the matter being discussed. Instead, it’s based on external factors, a story, a cultural connection, something that is fueled by the feeling that comes from refusing to examine the issue, not by honest inquiry.

Skepticism is gutsy, denialism is based on fear.

-- Seth Godin, Denialism is not skepticism

Holding Tensions

I've noticed...one of harder things for me to sustain is holding the tensions of others.

Actually, I do it quite well, at least on the surface.  

What I often don't do so well is care for the toll it takes on me by the way I acknowledge (or, more likely, don't) these tensions.

Altar of Social Change

We must proclaim the truth that all life is one and that we are all of us tied together. Therefore it is mandatory that we work for a society in which the least person can find refuge and refreshment. . . . You must lay your lives on the altar of social change so that wherever you are, there the Kingdom of God is at hand!

-- Howard Thurman, Commencement address, Garrett Biblical Institute, 1943

All The Ways

Randoms...

Chiding (oneself, or others) is rarely an effective long-term strategy for change.

Friends are, among other things, those who show up.

When you give of yourself, it tends to cost you something.

Aren't we mostly curators of our own ideas?

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Visual: From Afar

Visual - "From Afar”:

St Mary’s, CO

More pics here....

In Search of a Story

We are all wired by what we’ve experienced to be in search of a story with an ending...that feels like it has a completion. And the stories that we gravitate to are the ones that make sense to us, stories that fit, stories that feel like they have continuity, connection to the past, where we’ve been.... Those stories that we will follow are the ones that feel true, feel like they have continuity to our past and that resonate with the trajectory of our lives. So, we’re looking for the story that doesn’t necessarily change our minds; we’re actually looking for the story that confirms what’s in our minds.

-- Jacqui Lewis

What I Want To Do

I live with a question — why can't I leverage what I want to do?

Underneath this question might be this one — why I do feel the need to do so?

And, underneath that question might be yet another one — what am I assuming, about leverage, that I haven't already done so?

Unplug It

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.

-- Anne Lamott

NOT 'Just Another Wedding'....

It seems to me that marriage is a kind of a calling, at the very least, to a commitment.

Given our times, I'm still struck by the desire people have to do it — to make this kind of commitment, to be in union with another person.  When I think about the significance of this day, I think about it in at least 3 ways:

As a friend or family member, I'm struck by the significance such gatherings represent about the lives we live.  So many have made a contribution to Makenzie and Caleb, either by their experience of you in their lives or by your very presence at the wedding.  Many came from far away, just to be there for these few hours.  Many gave generously to them in one way or another to make the day special.  So many were generous to us, as their parents.  Tami and are deeply grateful for these things, for each of you who have been involved.

As a parent, I really feel grateful for Makenzie's desire for marriage.  I can still remember how we would dance together, when she was a little girl.  I am grateful for how Makenzie has come to know that she is loved — that she can both receive love and give love.  

Thirdly, as a person, I am excited about this marriage, for her sake.  I can also remember when we found Makenzie, still very young, walking on a 4-foot tall ledge on the side of our house...by herself!  She was both careful and fearless.  Where we felt the possibility of danger; she felt the possibility of something exciting.  And then there was the time when she came up to us from the backyard holding a little wild bunny in her hands; she felt connection and tenderness.  And, from there, Makenzie has continued — to desire life, to experience life, and to grow in life.

And so, here we are, today at her marriage.

Surely, the path of marriage, if like our own, will be harder than can really be anticipated, but it will also be...better.  I can attest to both of these realities.  In our view, those who make and sustain this kind of desire for and commitment to another person are traveling on a road — a road to a kind of betterment — the kind that changes you, those around you, and probably in some mysterious way, the world.

Makenzie, may you become all that you can become, may your marriage be a vehicle for traveling into the embrace of all of who you are, and may the life you create (figuratively or literally) be a reflection of the greatness and beauty of God.  And, when this feels impossible to see anymore, just keep going.  Because, this is in fact a path, one that many have travelled, and it can lead to goodness.

Caleb, I really can't think of anyone who seems more suited to walk this life with Makenzie.  There is a lot about you that I don't know.  But, through our correspondence and time together, I have gotten to know some things.  I am grateful for: 

• your humility 
• your desire to grow as a person
• the ways you are worthy of trust
• the way you desire to honor people...and, of course, Makenzie

Even when you don't manifest all of these things perfectly, they give me great confidence that you are a part of what it looks like to love Makenzie.  And, she, you.

So, I am excited for both of you — for what you will receive from each other, for what you will learn to give to each other from your increasingly full selves...from all that God has made you to be.

May God bless both you...AND others through your union of marriage!

Some pics here....

See and Accept

What I let God see and accept in me also becomes what I can then see and accept in myself, in my friends, and in everything else! This is “radical grace.”

-- Richard Rohr

Randoms...

Groups with power too often need an enemy.

Be aware of how much of the world (System) you take in — not necessarily 'beware', but 'be aware'...it is systemic.

Among other things, pain focuses our attention.

It’s not hard for me to see gray where others only see black and white…see what I mean?

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This Is Water

It's 'commencement' time again:

"It isn't really the capacity to think, but rather about the choice of what to think about."

"Blind certainty — a closed-mindedness that amounts to an imprisonment so total that the prisoner doesn't even knows he's locked up."

"The real value of education, which has almost nothing to do with knowledge, and everything to do with awareness; awareness of what is so real and essential, so hidden in plain sight all around us, all the time, that we have to keep reminding ourselves over and over."

-- David Foster Wallace

You Can't Create Peace

You can’t create peace; you can only discover it.

-- Deepak Chopra

Is Capitalism Is Destroying America?

In some ways, capitalism is now destroying America. 

And, it doesn’t seem clear that democracy can save it either. 

The incessant channeling of natural resources for the primary purpose of pure consumption is literally changing our collective ecosystems. Just because we have air-conditioning, live indoors, and don't it, doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. Not to mention drought, carbon-emissions, etc. 

If we mow down the world, and pave it over, just so that we can have new living spaces…what on earth did we think is going to happen?

How many more signs does nature need to give us that what we are doing is unsustainable?

Maybe there is more unsustainability involved than we realize — it appears the factors involved aren't all just external either.

Will we continue to consume almost anything (and everything); just because we can, just because someone will sell it to us?

America Has a Drinking Problem

 

A little alcohol can boost creativity and strengthen social ties. But there’s nothing moderate, or convivial, about the way many Americans drink today.  Continue here...

-- Kate Julian

Courage Comes From

Our courage comes from the courage of others.

-- Simon Sinek

Selling Outrage

Ever noticed...that selling outrage is a problem?

At the very least, consider the money behind outrage in our society.

It Isn’t The Gospel

It isn’t the gospel, if it doesn’t include a social justice.

In other words, the gospel isn’t just  a private thing.  In fact, it may not even be primarily a private thing.

Randoms...

There’s the truth and then there’s the package in which it is delivered.

It’s not good to go too long thinking about people, without being with them.

Applying pressure is a tactic, but not a good strategy.

Why do we tend to believe that the present is not enough (that we need to know the future, too)?

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