Ever noticed…how much we want closeness AND pleasure?
We want both. Sometimes we feel like we have neither. And, when that happens, we may think we will be happy with just one. But, we really still want both.
There is a degree to which pleasure is not ultimately satisfying without closeness.
And, similarly, relationship without enjoyment feels lacking.
Over the course of our existence, we do likely experience all three (each and combined) at one point or another — though, perhaps, much less than we would prefer — but, more often only one of them, as life seems to anticipate the likelihood of longer stretches of one without the other.
The trick is to learn how to honor the gift of either (or both) from life, rather than demand them from it. As with many things, our lack of demand is what opens us more to experiencing the possibility.